How to strike up a conversation with anyone

Being able to talk to people you don’t know well is a vital work skill. If you can start a conversation with strangers, you’ll be rewarded with:

1. People opening up to you, helping you feel closer to them and them closer to you

2. A decreased level of stress and awkwardness (compared to silence)

3. Potential business or social opportunities for you or the person you’re talking with

 

The tips here are all excellent. I’m not good at small talk and I don’t enjoy it, but I make myself engage in it at work because it often leads to real, substantial communication which can benefit everyone. One of the tips, “Give them your full attention”, is an obvious one, but many of us have a hard time doing that. If you can really be present with someone, listening to them and paying attention to their tone, watching their body language, and thinking what they might be trying to communicate with their words (consciously or subconsciously), you’ll find that such presence is both its own reward and will give others the desire and confidence to open up to you. Give it a try. Focus completely on another person while they’re talking with you. Your relationship with them will likely grow in a positive way.

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